David Brooks is clearly one of favorite writers. His NYT columns and opinions on PBS NewsHour are always welcome. His book, Second Mountain, is surely well versed that deals with the balance between self and others, balance between nations, and a commitment to others.
There is no question that his perspective is accurate. However, I view these matters from a different perspective.
When I was in the seminary, I personally got clued to the writings of Pierre Theilhard deChardin, a Jesuit paleontologist. While exploring fields of coal, he experienced the Divine. He wrote several books, all of which I read, but they were not published until after his death. The Jesuit society did not agree with his vision to the point that he was buried in Jesuit cemetery without any sign to the public. Later, I read all the literature of Sr. Ilia DeLio, a Professor at Marquette University. Her writings further advanced the view the Divine is present in all.
Admittedly, this literature is difficult to summarize. I am able only to point out the essential components of this understanding.
In contrast to religions (Christianity, Islam, Hebrew, Buddhism), “God” is no longer referenced since the word is used as a “person” as known generally. In contrast, the ultimate is now understood as the Divine without any embodiment known to humans. The Divine is present in all (humans, plants, animals, the entire cosmos). Thus, I only need to be consciously aware of the presence of the Divine which I do often during the day and, at night, when I am waiting to fall asleep.
Knowing that the Divine is present in all humans (admittedly complicated when considering such persons as Putin), it is then meaningful to talk to others (family, friends, neighbors, persons in nursing homes) with love.
Knowing that the Divine is present in all, it becomes possible to experience the Divine in animals, as in our dog (MaggieMae).
This understanding of the Divine enables a person to see the world with a perspective that enables love.